Defining Relationships ? Polyamory from the Inside Out

Posted in Uncategorized tagged poly, relationships, sex, polyamory, polyamorous, relationship, love, family, friends at 12:19 pm by Kathleen

I love my husband. But we don?t have sex. And if I don?t have sex with him, and we sleep in different rooms, then how are we different from roommates? And if we?re ?just? roommates, then what significance can our relationship really have for us?

I know this is sort of non-sensical, but it?s some of the stuff that?s been knocking around in my skull lately, and it?s really throwing me off balance, so let?s get it all out, shall we?

What I?m really questioning, deep in my psyche, is what our relationship is, and how sex or lack of sex may have redefined it. After all, normal married couples have sex, so if we don?t, does that make us less married? Less in love? Less able to care for each other. Of course not, but my fears are the ones in the driver?s seat right now emotionally, so I?m trying to squish them. And that?s where defining relationships comes in.

For example, my? brother and I share an undeniable bond. We hated each other growing up, but once I moved out things changed radically. We?ve become allies, friends, and companions, and although we disagree sometimes, argue, and get frustrated with one another, I?m still driving something like 14 hours with him to help him move out of state. Because I love him and he loves me, and we are Sibling. So what is sibling? It isn?t just about growing up together, because I know plenty of siblings who don?t have a special bond or even much of a bond at all. It was a decision that we both reached pretty much simultaneously around the time we came of age. I?ve got your back.

And maybe it really is that easy. Michael has my back, too. We don?t just live in the same house, we?re there for each other, and there?s an understanding, both stated and quietly understood, that we always will be. Like my brother and I, Michael and I have made a decision. I love you. You love me. I?ve got your back.

Blessings,

Kathleen

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